Not sure what to say at a funeral? When faced with overwhelming emotions, finding appropriate words that provide solace and encouragement to others can be difficult.
This article aims to provide guidance and reassurance for those at a loss for words during such solemn occasions.
Whether you are a close friend or a distant acquaintance of the deceased, understanding how to navigate these sensitive moments can bring immeasurable comfort to yourself and those around you.
Words of comfort at a funeral
First and foremost, we want to emphasise the importance of heartfelt communication. Words of comfort at a funeral are not just words; they hold immense power to console and support grieving people.
When attending a funeral, it is common to experience a sense of powerlessness or inadequacy. Although we genuinely want to provide support, there are instances where our words of comfort might fall short in such challenging situations.
Feeling speechless during challenging times is normal, and grief can often cause a temporary inability to express oneself.
If you anticipate this happening, planning and practising a few phrases can be helpful in case you find yourself at a loss for words or struggling to convey your emotions.
Things to say at a funeral service
A few phrases that can provide solace are:
- My deepest condolences for your loss.
- I am truly sorry for your loss; I understand how much you will miss your father (his name), as he was an extraordinary man who touched our lives in countless ways.
- His memory will be cherished by all who had the privilege of knowing him.
- She was a remarkable individual, and her absence will be deeply felt.
- You and your loved ones are in my constant thoughts and prayers.
- Whenever you’re ready, I’ll be here to offer support.
Please read words to comfort someone who has lost a loved one for more inspiring phrases and condolence messages.
Tips on what to say for funeral condolences
Not sure what to say at a funeral? Here are some tips that may help:
- Share personal reflections that celebrate the life and impact of the deceased is often warmly appreciated.
- Offer positive words of hope and encouragement.
- Focus on listening rather than speaking.
- Sometimes, no words can adequately express our emotions during grief-stricken moments. Simply being present with mourning individuals can speak volumes without any verbal communication. A comforting touch, a hug or an understanding nod can offer great solace.
- When you are not well-acquainted with the bereaved, a simple, sincere apology for their loss suffices.
- Craft a personalised statement that reflects your relationship with the deceased or shares specific memories about them.
- A friend, family member or the funeral director may be able to offer advice on what to say if you are lost for words.
What to say at a funeral when you don’t know what to say
Finding the right words of comfort after a funeral can be difficult.
When faced with overwhelming emotions, it can be hard to articulate sentiments that bring solace and uplift others. It’s important to speak genuinely from your heart and convey sincere condolences.
Experiencing uncertainty about what to say is completely normal, but being equipped for such moments can be helpful if you tend to become speechless.
Anton Brown Funerals stands by our families throughout their journey, offering unwavering support. We trust that this article will serve as a source of guidance and reassurance.
If you would like to get in touch with Anton Brown Funerals, please contact us today.

Anton Brown Funerals is a family-owned, Queensland funeral company which was established in 1995.
Our Brisbane-based team of funeral directors are honest, professional, compassionate and understanding, and always put our clients and their needs first.
We go above and beyond to ensure your loved one’s funeral arrangements are tailored to their final wishes and can assist you with burials, cremations, coffins, floral arrangements, pre-planning and more.
If you need help organising a dignified funeral service, we are available to discuss arrangements 24/7, so please don’t hesitate to reach out to us today on (07) 3217 3088 or send us a message online here.